A happy Monday to you.
I've been struggling with something for some time that comes up over and over again not just in the Spiritual field but in all aspects of life and that is - where do you put your loyalties.
Now when it comes to family and friends that is, or should be, obvious. When it comes to work it isn't so obvious and particularly if you work for yourself but with friends.
I've been struggling with this for a long time because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I came into this life with a mission that has been making itself gradually more clear as I move through life. The only way I can describe it is that this mission is sacred to me, and my mission statement is simple:
I want to help people to feel better and be happier
(and maybe have a tiny shot at world peace!)
There are lots of side issues around that but that's what it all boils down to. I have to work out how I can reach as many people as possible in order to do what I can, however much or little that may be.
I have found though, especially in the Spiritual field, that there are extremely high expectations that every Spiritual worker will be a vision of perfection who never contravenes one single rule laid down by someone else.
The problem is that there are a million individual someones who all have different rules based on their own individual needs and desires, and if you genuinely wouldn't hurt a soul (as I wouldn't), and you genuinely love people especially your friends (as I do) trying to balance all those needs and desires can give you a very real headache. It can also compromise your work.
As many of those who know me will be aware I have a Spirit Guide called Amos. He is real to me. He is also the most wonderfully loving, wise and humble being I have ever met (actually all my Guides past and present are like him but he's the boss). Working with him blows my mind every single day and leaves me sitting there saying "what on earth did I ever do to deserve his/their help and support" at least three times a week.
Today I was working through this problem with my husband and sounding board (lucky man) when suddenly I reached the answer to the dilemma I've been facing for so many years. This, as always, was followed by a cosmic sigh of relief and the "at last" feeling that I've received from Amos on a fairly regular basis, not quite as often as 3 times a week though thank goodness LOL.
I realised this. I have only one loyalty and that's my work. I have only one boss and that's my Guide, currently Amos.
This doesn't mean I'm going to rush around making agreements with people and breaking them when it suits me, because that wouldn't reflect my work at all in any way shape or form and is therefore unacceptable.
It also doesn't mean that I abdicate all responsibility for my actions to Amos, I most certainly do not. What it does mean is that whoever I work with now or in the future has to know that I am working out my own life path and not that of someone else.
Please note too that it does NOT mean I'm going to become suddenly perfect, if you're asking that of me you're asking too much. I haven't achieved angelic status here, just a bit of clarity!
What it also means is that it has to be crystal clear that my work comes first and that's how I need to proceed. The good of the work for the good of people, animals and the planet has to be my guiding light, in the sincere hope that I can inspire or help them as others have inspired and helped me. I come from the Marianne Williamson school - we came here with a light to shine and hiding that light does not serve the world and I am here to serve it.
I am Deb Dancing Star Hawken and my job is to reach as many people as I can and share whatever inspiration I can in the hope that it will help them somehow. I also would like to work on world peace.
I cannot tell you how much helping others is my very reason for being. You might think that as a writer I should be able to put it into words but for me some things go so deep there are no words and my work and the welfare of others are two of those things.
Yes the welfare of my family, friends and animals will always be of the utmost importance to me and losing anyone of them is a regret and sadness I always carry with me, it's part of what creates my compassion, but I can't let anything or anyone compromise why I am here because my why is quite simply my life.
I hope that for others of you out there who have struggled with the same issues these ideas will help you to reach clarity, especially when other people put you in the position that you're going to let someone down. I've been put in a 'damned if I do and damned if I don't situation' by other peoples' fears and actions 6 times in the last 8 months where I know I risk becoming hugely unpopular with someone if I want to be hugely popular with someone else. Or even if I just want to do my work.
You see, I have a dream and it's this. One day, 50 years or so after I'm on the other side, someone will turn to someone in trouble and say something like "you know, my grandmother once told me something that changed my life, she couldn't remember who said it or where she heard but it's this '.....' I hope it will help you too." They might even have read it in one of my books, who knows, but they won't know who Deb Hawken was because she'll be me again; the Spiritual me.
If I don't do my work only for the sake of the love I have for people, animals and the planet, then how can I ever become the person that time forgot?
Wishing you happy days, peaceful nights, and Spiritual clarity in all that you do.