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With some people you will feel fine after you've talked their problems through with them, but with others you will feel like you've been 12 rounds with a heavy-weight boxer - punch drunk and exhausted.
This is one of the ways you work out whether people actually want your help or need your attention.
Those who want your help will listen to your advice and act on it, you won't feel tired talking to them no matter how difficult their circumstance and how much they're struggling with life. Even if they're really down you will notice how much they want to feel better and you will see how hard they are prepared to work to get better.
Those who only need your attention are like speaking to a DVD stuck in a groove, they repeat the same thing over and over again, you give them every piece of advice you can think of, and each piece of advice you give is resisted with something like "No but..." or "there's no way" or "I'm too tired..." or "but it isn't me it's them".
Now nothing I've said here so far has surprised you, but think for a moment, how often have you been through these situations of trying to help people who only need your attention, and landed up exhausted, frustrated and hiding from your own telephone? Not so easy nowadays when it's probably on or near your person most of the time.
So although you know the difference between need and want are you really protecting yourself from the needers and spending your energy on the wanters?
Remember, don't cast your seeds on stoney ground, look for fertile soil and use your energy there.
Wishing you happy days and peaceful nights.