Blogging

It's a long time since I've blogged.  To be honest I've been going through a bit of a dry spell writing-wise and haven't felt that I've had much to say.

It's been worrying me of course, not only am I a writer but I'm also quite chatty - a handy talent for an inspirational speaker and writer of course - but I just haven't felt like chatting.

I've been avoiding the phone, keeping my social networking to a minimum, and basically spending time with friends and resting.

I was wondering what was wrong, but today I had another of my energetic breakthrough points and I realised that nothing has been wrong.  I've merely been in a phase of changing energy and further learning.

I feel better for it.  I'm sleeping better.  I'm more relaxed.

So the moral of this very short story is that nothing has been wrong, sometimes we just need to shut up in order to hear.

In other words, if you're struggling to hear your Guides or to know what the next step in your path should be, allow yourself to go quiet, spend time with friends, get some sleep and your over-tired mind will have the time, space and peace to hear.

Wishing you happy days and peaceful nights

Deb

The Person That Time Forgot

Dear All

A happy Monday to you.

I've been struggling with something for some time that comes up over and over again not just in the Spiritual field but in all aspects of life and that is - where do you put your loyalties.

Now when it comes to family and friends that is, or should be, obvious.  When it comes to work it isn't so obvious and particularly if you work for yourself but with friends.

I've been struggling with this for a long time because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I came into this life with a mission that has been making itself gradually more clear as I move through life.  The only way I can describe it is that this mission is sacred to me, and my mission statement is simple:

I want to help people to feel better and be happier

(and maybe have a tiny shot at world peace!)

There are lots of side issues around that but that's what it all boils down to.  I have to work out how I can reach as many people as possible in order to do what I can, however much or little that may be.

I have found though, especially in the Spiritual field, that there are extremely high expectations that every Spiritual worker will be a vision of perfection who never contravenes one single rule laid down by someone else.

The problem is that there are a million individual someones who all have different rules based on their own individual needs and desires, and if you genuinely wouldn't hurt a soul (as I wouldn't), and you genuinely love people especially your friends (as I do) trying to balance all those needs and desires can give you a very real headache.  It can also compromise your work.

As many of those who know me will be aware I have a Spirit Guide called Amos.  He is real to me.  He is also the most wonderfully loving, wise and humble being I have ever met (actually all my Guides past and present are like him but he's the boss).  Working with him blows my mind every single day and leaves me sitting there saying "what on earth did I ever do to deserve his/their help and support" at least three times a week.

Today I was working through this problem with my husband and sounding board (lucky man) when suddenly I reached the answer to the dilemma I've been facing for so many years. This, as always, was followed by a cosmic sigh of relief and the "at last" feeling that I've received from Amos on a fairly regular basis, not quite as often as 3 times a week though thank goodness LOL.

I realised this.  I have only one loyalty and that's my work.  I have only one boss and that's my Guide, currently Amos.

This doesn't mean I'm going to rush around making agreements with people and breaking them when it suits me, because that wouldn't reflect my work at all in any way shape or form and is therefore unacceptable.

It also doesn't mean that I abdicate all responsibility for my actions to Amos, I most certainly do not.  What it does mean is that whoever I work with now or in the future has to know that I am working out my own life path and not that of someone else.

Please note too that it does NOT mean I'm going to become suddenly perfect, if you're asking that of me you're asking too much.  I haven't achieved angelic status here, just a bit of clarity!

What it also means is that it has to be crystal clear that my work comes first and that's how I need to proceed.  The good of the work for the good of people, animals and the planet has to be my guiding light, in the sincere hope that I can inspire or help them as others have inspired and helped me.  I come from the Marianne Williamson school - we came here with a light to shine and hiding that light does not serve the world and I am here to serve it.

I am Deb Dancing Star Hawken and my job is to reach as many people as I can and share whatever inspiration I can in the hope that it will help them somehow.  I also would like to work on world peace.

I cannot tell you how much helping others is my very reason for being.  You might think that as a writer I should be able to put it into words but for me some things go so deep there are no words and my work and the welfare of others are two of those things.

Yes the welfare of my family, friends and animals will always be of the utmost importance to me and losing anyone of them is a regret and sadness I always carry with me, it's part of what creates my compassion, but I can't let anything or anyone compromise why I am here because my why is quite simply my life.

I hope that for others of you out there who have struggled with the same issues these ideas will help you to reach clarity, especially when other people put you in the position that you're going to let someone down.  I've been put in a 'damned if I do and damned if I don't situation' by other peoples' fears and actions 6 times in the last 8 months where I know I risk becoming hugely unpopular with someone if I want to be hugely popular with someone else.  Or even if I just want to do my work.

You see, I have a dream and it's this.  One day, 50 years or so after I'm on the other side, someone will turn to someone in trouble and say something like "you know, my grandmother once told me something that changed my life, she couldn't remember who said it or where she heard but it's this '.....' I hope it will help you too."  They might even have read it in one of my books, who knows, but they won't know who Deb Hawken was because she'll be me again; the Spiritual me.


If I don't do my work only for the sake of the love I have for people, animals and the planet, then how can I ever become the person that time forgot?

Wishing you happy days, peaceful nights, and Spiritual clarity in all that you do.

Deb xx

Deb Hawken - Dancing Star: BBC Outrage

Deb Hawken - Dancing Star: BBC Outrage: "I've been watching the debate about the way the BBC treated Mediumship recently and although I haven't seen the programme I don't have a pro..."

BBC Outrage

I've been watching the debate about the way the BBC treated Mediumship recently and although I haven't seen the programme I don't have a problem with their methodology.  They bought two Mediums into the discussion, ok it was by video link but that's always been an acceptable way of people appearing on news programmes etcetera.  So they gave us a chance to speak.

I'm sure that people didn't agree with us and equally sure that harsh and rude words were said.  The usual stuff about taking advantage of the weak for money probably cropped up. It really doesn't bother me.

Why?

Because I'm sure and certain of who I am and the abilities I have and I would never take advantage of anyone for money. I trust me and they don't know me, and I am comforted by the process of that logic.

Although I don't like rudeness and would prefer cynics to be polite in their condemnation of us, I can handle that condemnation because they have a right to their opinions.  If a cynic was politely dismissive I can take it.  I think it's the rudeness and suggestions that we should be shot at dawn etcetera that are unacceptable.

You see even though I know that I would never take advantage of a person for money and I know that my friends in the field wouldn't either I also accept that there are people out there who do; whose behaviour is so far over the line they can't see the line any more.  We all know that and we all know that we will be unfairly judged by their standards.  I'm sure that decent accountants, doctors and police officers feel exactly the same way.

When it comes to the question of earning money for our work, let's face it, there are Mediums in the field who agree with that statement.  I feel that choosing whether to be a professional working Medium and exercising the right to use your abilities as work is a very personal thing, and we have to accept that those who feel our abilities are a gift will always disagree with us earning money.  Even priests who work directly for God are paid and given a roof over their heads.

I prefer to do this work full time and again I have full confidence that this is a good use of my time that benefits others.  I know that there are people out there who have been greatly helped to both heal their grief and guide their life because I do this for a living.  I am comfortable with my personal decision.  Other people exercise their rights to work for themselves utilising their abilities and I choose to do the same.

We also know that we can't change the mind of any other human being.  If we have the free will to be Mediums then they have the free will not to believe in us.  Moreover, anyone without our life experience will never be able to imagine it in their wildest dreams.

So the message is this, don't be defensive, don't be hurt.  Just get on and do what you do.  Convert those you can save and be gentle with those you can't even if they can't be gentle with you.  Use your energy for the good, don't waste it on a battle that can't be won...yet.

Wishing you happy days and peaceful nights

Deb

Charlie's Chewsletter - New Group Being Started

Dear Hoomans

It haz been sum time since I've written to you in my own words and worn out my pawses tryping to you on mum's laptop.  However, I iz a bit feds up so I've decided to start a new group it's called CAFFE.

Charlie Against Feline Female Emancipation

Now I don't knows what emancipation is (I got mum to smell it for me) but I do knows that it isn't a good idea - as can be clearly seen from this very telling photograph where I is a victim of emancipation AGAIN.

For those of you unfamiliar with my lifestyle let me just tell you that I live with 4 sisters and my mum.  I also haz a dad but he duz lots of workings and is b*******g off to NZ in September without me and leaving me at their mercies.  PLUS auntie Jayne might have moved in by then too and although she's very nice and calls me beautiful a lot she iz still a female and therefore emancipated and definitely untrustworthy.

I knows that all the mens reading this will completely understand the pawsition in which I finds myself (usually under a woman what haz her claws out and a nasty glint in her eye).  And I will admit to being somewhat of a softie who's growl is rarely backed up by more than a quick snap of the jawz if mum izn't looking.

This is becoz mum a) adopted 4 women and then b) banned all violence from the household!  Now why on earth would she get 3 women before me and 1 after me and then ban violence when it was most needed?

She duz say that I did torment Jo-Jo for the first year of my life and turn her from a sweetie into a warrior queen where I'm concerned (pleeze note that she is a warrior queen and I am "Charlie stop growling NOW") Surely she knowz that any man cowering under a table with his paws over his head is only growling for show and would high-tail it out of there like a rocket on speed if he's given half a chance and the others aren't lurking casually round corners waiting to biff him?

I wishes I could borrow my dad's motorbike (Doris) then I'd show them how quick I could get my butt out of the firing line.  Hell hath no fury like a woman who's bum's been bit - wished I'd knowed that before I bit my first bum.

I'm sure that all you mens sympathise with my plight as you go through the same types of things likes forgetting Valentine's day, wedding anniversaries, her birthday, her (in the car park at Tescos).  A word of advice there, if you drive away without her again come back, park somewhere else and claim that you were in that spot last week, THIS week you've been at the other end of the car park the whole time.

Anyways, if any mens want to joins my group I could modify it to Charlie Against Female Emancipation (I had to drop an F becoz mum wouldn't let me puts in the other F word I wanted to use).

This group will be to raise money to take us all somewhere there are no women but lots of cooks and peeple wot can provide food and the basic necessities of life (water, string, mices, butterflies - which I DO NOT chase).  You hooman mens might want something different but if any of the difference is females I shall drum you out of the group instantly and bites your butts for good measure.  I sure hopes my mouth is big enough!

Anyway, I haz to go now becoz mum needs to put the ices cream that she is NOT eating back in the freezer.  I can also confirm to my aunties Nicky and Belle that she does have copious supplies of chocolate on the premises and on the grounds that I hears her scream when she sees her chocolate in the mirror before she gets dressed she does not need any more!  Those screems are really deafening, I thought WWIII had broken out the other day and it was an air raid siren going off, turns out she'd caught sight of herself in the door of the conservatory.

Anyway, if you are going to bring goodies aunties pleeze gets them from any well known pet store - you'd be doing mum a favour providing whatever you buys haz no legz and iz NOT female! In which case you would find that my bite IZ worser than my growl.

I will sign off now.  Pleeze send all donashuns (please note that duz not read NOT dalmations especially NOT female onez) to my dad who is collecting the monies for me and NOT spending it on the trip to NZ whilst he abandonz me to all them wimmins.  I think he might be coming with us eventually though on the grounds he's mucked up a good few remembering situations himself.

Mum said to him the other night that wherever his brain cell what duz remembering woz it wozn't in her head.  I've been looking for it for him even since but mum sez no-one's eyesight is THAT good.  I asked him where he last saw it and he said that no-one's memory is that good either.

So...on the grounds that cowardice is the better part of survival

I remain

In my barrel hidden behind a large bush

CharlieHawk

P.S.  Dad...you reeely reely can't leave me alone with them wimmins...how much will a first class seat for me cost and a) will my groupies mind me spendings my monies on it and b) will you be lonely in economy?
P.P.S.  This Chewsletter was generated by Amie pouncing on me whilst I woz asleep in the sun and bitings my head - auntie Nicky witnessed this via the mobile tepelone and will be glad to be a witness in court for me.
P.P.P.S.  Amie and Jo-Jo had a fight today, they were laying on their sides in the sun batting at each other with one paw!
P.P.P.P.S.  I might be a tell tail but actually it's a magnificent tail and deserves to be told!  So There!
P.P.P.P.P.S.  Dad - if you're going back to Noo Zeeland to find your brain cell don't bother, it will only get you into trouble!

Deb Hawken - Dancing Star: Training the Dancing Star Way

Deb Hawken - Dancing Star: Training the Dancing Star Way: "I've been a Psychic Medium for many years and am now a professional working Psychic Medium. As part of my work I do a lot of teaching at hom..."

Training the Dancing Star Way

I've been a Psychic Medium for many years and am now a professional working Psychic Medium. As part of my work I do a lot of teaching at home and abroad, recently in Sweden and in July I will be teaching in Limerick in Ireland with the SixSense Academy.

I underwent a great deal of training myself to become as professional a worker as possible, and I wholeheartedly believe in training and that good training prepares you not only to do the work to a high standard, but also for the ups and downs common to any career or calling and to help you to cope with the slings and arrows of outraged cynics.

I love inspiring people to free their own abilities and see what kind of Spiritual worker they are, yet when I first began my own training I was surprised that quite a few people coming on the courses didn't want to be Psychic Mediums or other Spiritual workers, in fact they weren't quite sure why they felt drawn to come on the courses in the first place. They went home feeling much better about life, themselves and their place in the universe but it was still a conundrum that required solving.

In fact it caused me one or two furrowed brows I can tell you, and obviously those weren't good for my on-going youthful good looks so I had to get to the bottom of this puzzle.

When I began offering training myself I started by asking the students why they thought they were on the course but to be honest "I don't really know" wasn't a particularly helpful answer. Then I turned to my Guide Amos, who obviously gave me a few pointers but said 'just see how your work develops'. Onset of another furrowed brow moment!

So knowing that he is eternally wise I just went with my work. At first I kept up with the classical style of training but gradually I realised that other things were important not just to me but to the overall personal development that is key to creating a truly good Spiritual worker. Wherever that person chooses to work.

I also realised that people were receiving the training of how to read cards or ribbons, screwed up paper (yes it's possible) or someone's jewellery, photographs or sealed envelopes; they were learning to channel the Spirit World and giving good messages with verifiable evidence; yet there was something missing.

It took me time developing myself as a tutor and a person - which is of course the best way, learn by experience and then teach by example - before I realised the two keys that had been missing.

Firstly, not everyone wants or needs to be a Psychic, Medium or healer but they do have a calling to Spirituality not the Spiritual field, and that calling is about how they live their life and the changes they make in order to be happier and more fulfilled, and generally a more positive person to be around. This is important because most people will learn by example and the Spiritual example is not and should not be exclusive to the Spiritual field.

This brings me onto the second key, which is that whether you want to be a Spiritual worker or not the skills and abilities you develop by doing the training can affect every corner of your life in a positive way. You can use them to improve your communication skills and the way you interact with others by developing your ability to understand others at a deeper level. To be in touch with your own truth and make successful decisions. When communication improves and self-honesty sets in you are far more likely to see a happy life being lived that you want to emulate.

You can use your Mediumistic skills to develop a strong contact with your Guides who can support you in walking your own Spiritual pathway, because sometimes we need more life experience and real-world opportunities in order to develop our own unique knowledge base before we begin working in the Spiritual field.

Those talents may not lead a person into becoming an obvious Spiritual worker, but it doesn't mean that at heart they're not. People aren't always ready to be offered Spiritual thinking, but it doesn't mean that they don't need to be shown a more subtle approach to everyday living.

The other thing I now know is that I didn't become a qualified Life Coach by accident or mistake, I did it because walking your talk is extremely important if you're going to act as a beacon of light and hope for others. After all, who wants to emulate an unsuccessful unhappy person?

My Coaching skills and the element of counselling I studied help me to translate the recognition that students are struggling from the Psychic 'knowing' into real life action. Those very practical skills also help me to teach students so much more than how to deliver a good message, I can show them how to develop happiness and strength in their own life rather than just concentrate on others and end up exhausted themselves.  So many Spiritual workers forget that they exist because they give too much energy to the needs of their clients (and any stranger they bump into at the supermarket, a party, at work, etc.). 

So as you can see, the training I offer goes far deeper than becoming a Spiritual worker, it includes every area of your life.

I hope that through my training I can create trust in yourself, put a smile on your face, help you to become fulfilled and happy in every area of your life, and maybe - just maybe - give birth to a few good Spiritual workers.

All that and no stretch marks or consternation wrinkles!

Wishing you happy days, peaceful nights, and laughter lines

Deb